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It’s an interesting difference getting to know Finns online and Americans plus…

They say the Finns are reserved, but that's so not true online...

I’m a Finn, of course. The way Finns are online is like nobody else in this world, it seems. Maybe it’s non-english speakers in general, I don’t know… But it seems that the English speakers or Americans are really suspicious about everything that isn’t immediately identifiable as something familiar and already done and tested. Like an unusual personality online. It’s […]

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Why being childfree helps me to be me…

A spin from my previous post...

I mentioned in my previous post how I chose to be childfree in order to have the freedom to be me, MORE so than having children would… And I wish to elaborate because that’s what I do best. :D Being a mother is a very bog-standard role. While we have expectations on ourselves when we are single and childfree, the […]

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Flowerhat bullying: I don’t want to be talking about sex, stop talking about sex!

Here's how to react to others talking about sex... With a more grown up attitude than before.

I could take a grown-up, loving, and supporting approach to this post, and I will get that out of the way right now: Everyone has a right to seek for the kind of company they appreciate, including and not limited to eliminating all openly sexual people from their circle of friends, but what nobody should have the right to do […]

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As a side note; not all women are your ally

Some women will choose his side by default

This entry is part 7 of 7 in the series Reality Check

This entry is part 7 of 7 in the series Reality CheckThere is this assumption between women, that we are all in the same team and this is a men vs. women battle and that all women will always take the side of another woman. While this may be true 99 times out of 100, there’s always that one woman […]

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Men are not threatened by “strong” nor “intelligent” women… Per say

Please do not compliment yourself without knowing this is a realistic cause of concern for you.

This entry is part 6 of 7 in the series Reality Check

This entry is part 6 of 7 in the series Reality CheckFor the most part, men are attracted to strong, beautiful, intelligent, and successful women, but they may be too respectful of them to take them for granted. It is important, however, to NOT CONFUSE a ball-buster or a bully, or a what we call a domestic monster where I […]

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Men are NOT as fascinated about women as you think

Also, they don't regard you being smart or "cutely confusing"

This entry is part 5 of 7 in the series Reality Check

This entry is part 5 of 7 in the series Reality CheckThere are a lot of women who approach men thinking the men are just excited about being in female company like just the fact girls are talking to them would make them as giddy as 12-year old boys with Playboy magazines hidden under their mattresses would be. The more likely […]

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He won’t open up… What is he hiding?

To be honest? Most likely that he's really not impressed about anything you've said so far.

This entry is part 4 of 7 in the series Reality Check

This entry is part 4 of 7 in the series Reality CheckEver been guilty of pestering a guy for a date or an answer to why he’s not calling you or whatever, hoping that the reason he’s not answering you is because he’s so much in love with you that he can’t find the words to express it, or that […]

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If they’re so social and popular, why can’t they just open up?

Sometimes people are afraid they'll be stealing your spotlight

This entry is part 3 of 7 in the series Reality Check

This entry is part 3 of 7 in the series Reality CheckThere are several reasons why someone would not want to be too open about their thoughts and feelings at a party they don’t really want to be in or in a company they feel estranged from. First; if you’d talk about the stuff you’re interested in among people who are […]

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Reservedness, being quiet, distant, and withrawn;

What does this really mean?

This entry is part 2 of 7 in the series Reality Check

This entry is part 2 of 7 in the series Reality CheckReservedness is not a sign of a poor self-esteem, girls, or a sign that these people don’t know how to join in. Just because someone you like withdraws from the company they keep or choose to hang out with people you deem “losers” or “misfits” doesn’t mean they are too afraid […]

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Reality Check for girls, women, and some men, too.

From someone guys really like

This entry is part 1 of 7 in the series Reality Check

This entry is part 1 of 7 in the series Reality CheckThis is the stuff NOBODY EVER TELLS YOU, and when they do, this is the stuff you don’t want to think is real. This is stuff that some Very Freakin Hot women don’t understand, because they think real love is all about beauty, and this is what some nice […]